I have currently co-writen a book on mindful grandparenting which will soon be published. I raised two children without knowing anything about being mindful or present. Now I have five wonderful grandchildren and I have a chance to do things differently. Our book is about mindful moments to help grandparents and parents be more present in lives with their loved ones. It is especially important today with all the distractions we are all faced with on a daily basis.
EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY
Drawing from 40 years years of marriage, I have first hand experience with ups and downs of relationships and parenting. I am a member of the LA Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. I have completed an extensive training in EFT in fall 2015.
EFT is usually a short term (8-20 sessions), structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the early 80's by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg. Since then, Sue Johnson has further developed the model, adding attachment theory to further understand what is happening in couple relationships and to guide therapists in helping them. EFT is also used with families and individuals. A substantial body of research outlining the effectiveness of EFT now exists. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements.
Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy
• To expand and re-organize key emotional responses – the music of the attachment dance.
• To create a shift in partners' interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction.
• To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners.